Misty is a bright 25 year old young woman. She finally got the courage to talk to a counselor and she disclosed that she had been sexually abused by her uncle from ages 12 to 18.
Kim is a struggling 30 year old. She has never been able to overcome the guilt of her choices in her teenage and young adult years. Her addiction to porn and finding love in the arms of any man she could in her teen years led to an abortion in her early 20's. There were years of sexual escapades, drug use, and identity crisis. She was also overwhelmed by guilt and her understanding of God and His love for her.
Jeff is a seemingly successful young man in his early 20's. By all appearances, he has it all together. He secretly battles with feelings of lust and sexual fantasies that send him into dark bouts of depression. He hates himself for his feelings and feels ill equipped to even get the courage up to ask a woman on a date.
In my conversations with young adults I noticed that each of their stories shared a similar theme - a lack of conversation with parents or other healthy adults. Their sexual ethic had been neglected to develop on its own and it was deeply rooted by the time I talked to them.
The hours I have spent over the years with young adults has led to a frustration as I saw one after the other continue to make the same choices as before. They did not listen. Counsel would go in one ear and out the other. They were living by the sexual ethic that had been formed years before. Without a work of the Holy Spirit, I found it to be nearly impossible to undo the ETHOS they were living by.
I grew excited when I realized there was hope. I saw that a young adults success was founded in childhood and that the key players were parents - or other key influencers. I began developing trainings and resources to get into parents' hands to help them build a Biblical Sexual Ethic early. These would have to be affordable and accessible to as many families as possible.